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We are thankful

It is our hope that your Thanksgiving was a wonderful time filled with family, friends and love. This is how it should be celebrated and also what we planned to do.

Glen received a call on Tuesday, November 18th that his father who lives in Palm Bay, FL had a massive stroke and only had four to five days to live. So on Wednesday, November 19, we flew to Florida to be near him and his mother. By the end of the week all of his brothers, sisters, numerous family members, and countless friends from all over the country converged in Palm Bay to pray, hope and cry (not necessarily in that order). By Friday, November 21, he was given only a 20% chance of surviving. The stroke had caused a massive swelling in his brain and according to the Neurologist, had also caused brain fluid to leak into his spine. The stroke had also caused paralysis on the left side of his body, and also blinded in his left eye. Needless to say, we were all very distraught. It was disheartening to see this vibrant man, in such a life changing state.

Members of the family and friends had almost a 24 hour vigil at the hospital and at Glen’s parent’s home, continually praying, consoling each other and hoping for the best. He could speak, but with a slur, because the left side of his body was totally non-functioning.

On Saturday, November 22, we visited him in the hospital about 10am and had a surprise. Here was a man that was given to up to die, talking vibrantly (considering he had a tubes going through him to remove bodily fluids and to feed him). Of course his left side was still virtually paralyzed, but the strength in his voice had increased tremendously. He proclaimed to us joyously, that “God – The Almighty” had visited him the night before, sat on the right side of his bed and told him that they (God and the Angels) are not ready for him to come home, as yet. He assured us that everything will be OK, and that it will take awhile, but he is back amongst the living; he went on to say that the God will allow him to continue with the “breath of life” because his work here on Earth is not done. From that moment on, he has continually improved.

On Sunday, November 23, his doctor proclaimed it a “miracle” that he was still alive. He was so surprised that he apologized to us (the family) for giving us such a grim outlook. The following day, he was transferred outside of ICU to a standard hospital bed.

It has been a long and painful few days, but we are happy to say that with the combination of hope, prayer and good medicine, he began to come around. His vision and hearing on his left side is returning and he is using his left arm, hand, foot and leg, even walking a few steps with help. The day before Thanksgiving, he was discharged from the hospital and transferred to a physical rehabilitation facility. They do not expect him to be there very long as his strength is quickly returning.

Thanksgiving is a time of family and friends and this episode in our lives lends credence to the importance of it. My parents passed on long ago and Glen’s parents have always treated me like a daughter, along with all of the other “in-law spouses”. The fear and pain felt by blood relatives was also felt by those related by marriage.

We are home now and are in constant contact to follow his progress and to make sure Momma is being taken care of also.

Love your family. Your parents, sons, daughters and let it flow all the way to the newborns. Tomorrow is not promised to anyone. Show your love and give flowers while they can still smell them. We truly have a reason to be thankful this year.

Always love each other!

Hugs and More,

Toni and Glen
Believers in God the Creator, Angels and Miracles

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It's Me Aain!

For the gagillions of you that are wondering where we are, we are still here.  The woods are still beautiful and there is no where else we would rather be.  So “I’ll be back”, with stories of life up north.  The fun, silliness and honesty that can only be found by someone honest enought to tell you in the spring, “Hey, I think that’s a tick”. 

Enjoy!

Happy Anniversary to Us!

I am here typing my thoughts as we are celebrating our 31st Wedding Anniversary.  Who would have thought that after meeting this boy when I was twelve years old, we would be sharing a life together?  I have a story, it would be a lot longer in person, but so as not to bore anyone, I will condense it a bit.

I met him at school and we became good friends.  Nothing was ever more than friendship even up until the point when he asked me to marry him.  We each had our own lives and relationships, but remained fast friends, talking on the phone and writing later when he left for the military.  It was strange, but I always told him that there was someone better for him.  We had only kissed under the mistletoe on the holidays; the first was with my mouth full of Doritos, so it was unbelievably innocent.  And after a kiss like that, I’m surprised he came back!

It is still crystal clear in my head was when he visited our church.  I was a Sunday School Secretary and in the Choir so he had to wait until the end of the service before he came up to me and said “when are we gonna get married?”  I said “whenever you’re ready”.  He said “first you have to get rid of your boyfriend”.  Which was true; I did have a boyfriend, whom I quickly “kicked to the curb”.  No great loss there…

Then we began to go out on dates.  We went to movies, McDonalds, White Castle, walks in the park, and other casual things.  Glen was still living at his parents’ house and the opportunity came for us to spend time together when his parents and the rest of his family went to New York.  I stayed with him and have not slept at home since.  When his family came back, his loving mom would leave food for us and after a few weeks, gently asked, “Is Toni living here?”  He said yes, and I was welcomed to the family.

One night we went to my parent’s house to visit and he told them “I want to marry your daughter, I don’t have much, but I will take care of her”.  My mother’s head spun around a few times and my father stood up and shook his hand and said “you are a real man, a real man”.  I am not sure if my mother’s head was still spinning or not.  After all, I was a church raised girl, “living in sin”.  We still got their blessing and I graduated from high school and married the same week!   My mom came to love him as a son. We had a much larger wedding than either of us cared for.  We didn’t need the “pomp and circumstance”, we only needed each other.   And to this day it is still the same.

Since then, we have raised two beautiful children and have 3 lovely grandchildren.  Watching them grow is a blessing unto itself.

To celebrate our anniversary in the early years, we started out with lavish gifts and very fancy dinners, but over the years have found that it means nothing.  For starters, we only have ten fingers and don’t need more rings, and while we still travel every chance we get, it is not because it’s an anniversary, it’s because we want to go somewhere. Today we took a lovely drive and we may take another drive this evening, go out for dinner, but it does not need to be fancy. 

The best way to celebrate love is to know that it is pure and simple.  Enjoy simple things that you have always liked, and at the end of the day hold and love each other.

That’s what 31 years of love has taught us.